Now everyone sing along to that well known tune: “For the third tip of Christmas, the Couples Coach gave to me ….. !” (I have no idea if I have 12 tips in total up my sleeve but let’s see how we get on). Today’s tip is to actually ask your family or whoever you’re spending the day with, what they most want from Christmas. I don’t mean just in terms of presents, I mean the actual time together. Often we make assumptions e.g. that Great Auntie Agatha still loves buttered carrots but actually they give her indigestion these days and she only eats them out of politeness every year. Or we assume everyone cares about having a Cracker to pull and rush around looking for the perfect, yet ultimately always disappointing, Crackers. Everyone could be yearning to do something different but hasn’t wanted to speak up, assuming they are the only one feeling that way.
Instead I recommend you just ask. What are you most looking forward to about Christmas? How do you want to spend the day? Any food requests? Anything you’d prefer that we didn’t do?
And remember to add in your own requests too. Personally I’m generally at my most grumpy if I feel I have to be inside all day and so I like to go for a little walk after lunch. A breath of fresh air and let the brussels go down (or out!). Please like / share. Sue X