Feels like we need a part 2 this week re how to have an open chat as a couple / family. Firstly the set up is crucial. Agree that it’s a place of no blame, saying how we each feel and thinking what we can ourselves do better. With my family last weekend we were only allowed to speak if we held ‘the talking pencil’ (just a pencil!) – apart from where I stepped in to get kids to repeat things without blaming. Let everyone take turns to say what’s on their mind, what’s upsetting them etc and encourage them with questions ‘how do you feel when X does that?’ etc. Acknowledge them for speaking up. Then move to ‘what is each of us going to do better this week’ & have clear actions that are written up. My kids are 7 & 9 and it’s had a dramatic affect on their sibling issues this week. It also works well with younger / older kids too. And husbands … & wives for that matter! Any questions give me a shout and good luck. Pls like / share.