This week’s top tip is to look for the positive intention in what your partner (child, mother in law, parent, work colleague .. whoever is annoying you!) is doing and focus on that rather than the annoying aspect. They are not trying to deliberately annoy you. More likely they may be trying to help but just be unskilled in how they do it. A good example of this is unsolicited advice. As a receiver it’s easy to go into a thought such as: ‘Does she think I’m an idiot?’, ‘Don’t tell me what to do’, ‘Aaaagh, why can’t you just listen’ but your partner’s motivation was actually to help you and make your life easier. Focus on that and reduce the anger / frustration in the relationship. (Please like / share).