You often hear that there are 2 types of people in this World. It turns out there actually are: those that like to be tidy & those that are messy! As a naturally (VERY!) messy person I’m having to be ultra tidy at the moment because our house is now up for sale. And I find it hard work, time-consuming and stressful. There are many things I’d much rather be doing than tidying, pretty much anything in fact!
And yet I’ve coached many clients who are the opposite. They need orderliness in their home / workplaces in order to fully relax. So who’s got the right approach?
Neither. It’s all about Values. We all have our own personal values, the things that are important to us. When we live life in a way that honours our values we are more likely to feel fulfilled & happy. Everyone’s values are unique & different and problems can occur when we don’t accept that & judge others as wrong for their different values. For example, it’s no good saying to the tidy person ‘why can’t you just chill out, it’s no big deal if I leave my coat / bag / shoes lying around’ because to them it’s a really big deal. It niggles and frustrates and drives them crazy.
In our close relationships we really need to accept and try to accommodate our partner’s / family’s values or find a place of compromise. You might like to have a think about where you might have different values to your partner or family members? Meanwhile I’m trying to enjoy the calm, uncluttered space, even if it is hard to maintain, and hoping the house will sell quickly so we can revert to our normal chaotic mess & relax! Pls like / share and spread a little more understanding and tolerance. X