Earlier in the week I posted about there not being ‘a right way’ to be in relationship. However there are some wrong ways to be in a relationship. One wrong way is the functional relationship. There’s no obvious arguments or conflicts and an outsider would probably think it’s ‘fine’. But actually it functions very much as separate lives – you sort out the garden, I’ll cook the food, your turn to bath the kids, I’m out tonight you’re babysitting etc. And that’s it. All those roles / responsibilities are important but to go beyond the functional relationship there also needs to be connection, shared future dreams, having fun together etc. Otherwise it’s a lonely and unfulfilling marriage. You didn’t pick one another purely to share chores and a mortgage. There was an unexplainable force that drew you together, a spark between you, some shared dreams etc. Maybe it’s time to bring back some magic? Start by making time to talk. Turn off the gadgets, sit down and just chat. Regularly. And not about the kids! Good luck. Pls like/share. X