???? For the 8th Tip of Christmas the Couples Coach gave to me … 8 maids NOT sulking ????
Ok very dodgy lyric (sorry) but sulking, or stone walling, is one of the 4 Toxins that Jon Gottman refers to as being very detrimental to your relationship. In effect when you are sulking you are harming the relationship. You are also doing nothing to help yourself as you are staying in the mood, festering your angry thoughts and making the atmosphere cold and unloving which doesn’t feel good. So what to do when you are mad?
Sometimes we all need a time out but try to use that time to self soothe, get your mood back to equilibrium, try and find some good things about your partner, step into their shoes, look at the bigger picture, think how you created or added to the issue and take responsibility. You might need a walk, listen to uplifting music, meditate, knit … the list is endless but think what works for you. The sooner you can get yourself out of the sulk the sooner the relationship can win again and you’ll all benefit. Pls like / share, Sue X