When you’re annoyed with your partner (co-worker / in-law / child etc) about one thing, you can end up being annoyed about EVERYTHING.
That angry, resentful feeling grows until the object of your frustrations literally can’t do anything right. We can so easily get into a downward spiral of resentment that ends up with that person even annoying you in the way that they breathe / eat or say ‘Hello’.
And it’s not enjoyable for anyone – for you, your partner or anyone around you, so for everyone’s sakes, I encourage you to do everything you can to break the cycle.
Some options could be:
* To have a chat with the other person without criticising but instead explain how you’ve been feeling (they may be totally unaware!) and make requests for what you’d like to change.
* Look at your own part in what’s been happening. Where do you need to up your game too? It’s the easiest thing in the World to blame other people but much more useful to look at changing our own behaviours.
* Change your perspective. In any situation you’re not happy with you have 3 possible options. 1. Change the situation e.g. quit the job that you hate. 2. Decide to put up with it, with or without continued moaning! 3. Change your perspective and start to look for the positives e.g. your job might be boring but at least you’re not stressed & can enjoy your leisure time.
Staying in the grump isn’t going to help anyone, least of all you. Please like & share as you never know which of your friends is in a strop on this soggy Monday morning. Sue X